Lord fix it. We are back at the table with the same arguments. I’ve just watched a clip from Fresh & Fit, and honestly, I’m left feeling… weary. The topic? Myron, as usual, explaining why it’s “OK” for a man to cheat. Let me be clear: there’s nothing “OK” about cheating. It’s a breach of trust, a betrayal of commitment, and a deeply hurtful act, regardless of gender. However, the reasoning behind this justification is what’s truly troubling, and frankly, reveals a level of emotional immaturity that needs to be addressed.
The recurring theme in these conversations, and in so many corners of the internet promoting this “high value” rhetoric, seems to be rooted in a transactional view of relationships. It’s as if love, commitment, and loyalty are commodities to be bartered based on some arbitrary scale of perceived “value.” Men, in this framework, are supposedly justified in seeking external validation (read: cheating) if their partner doesn’t meet their specific, often unrealistic, demands or live up to some outdated notion of feminine subservience.
What I find particularly concerning is the complete lack of empathy. These discussions often dehumanize women, reducing them to a collection of physical attributes and domestic capabilities. It’s a reductive and frankly, offensive, way to view human beings. Where is the consideration for the emotional impact of infidelity? Where is the recognition that a relationship is a partnership built on mutual respect, trust, and open communication? It’s conveniently absent.
Instead, we are bombarded with justifications based on evolutionary psychology, outdated gender roles, and a desperate need for male validation. The argument that men are “biologically wired” to cheat is not only a tired cliché, but it also conveniently absolves them of personal responsibility. We are all capable of making choices, and choosing to honor a commitment is a sign of maturity and integrity, not a weakness.
The “high value” man, in this context, is portrayed as someone who is entitled to cheat because he brings certain assets to the table. This is a deeply flawed and dangerous premise. It suggests that love and commitment are conditional, based on a performance-based system. It encourages a culture of deceit and disrespect, where men feel entitled to betray their partners without consequence.
Moreover, this constant emphasis on external validation is a symptom of a deeper insecurity. Men who feel the need to constantly assert their dominance and justify their infidelity are often compensating for their own feelings of inadequacy. True confidence comes from within, not from the number of women you can bed or the amount of money you can accumulate.
I also find it deeply ironic that these conversations are often framed as being about male empowerment. In reality, they are anything but. They perpetuate a cycle of toxic masculinity that harms both men and women. Men are pressured to conform to unrealistic expectations of strength, dominance, and sexual prowess, while women are relegated to the role of subservient partners who must constantly strive to meet their man’s every whim.
This kind of thinking also fails to acknowledge the complexities of modern relationships. Both men and women are working, pursuing their own ambitions, and navigating the challenges of balancing career, family, and personal growth. To expect women to conform to outdated gender roles while men demand unconditional loyalty is not only unfair, but it is also completely unrealistic.
Ultimately, what these conversations reveal is a lack of emotional intelligence and a fundamental misunderstanding of what it means to be in a healthy, loving relationship. It’s a conversation rooted in insecurity, entitlement, and a deep-seated fear of vulnerability.
Instead of focusing on justifying infidelity and perpetuating toxic gender roles, we need to be promoting conversations about communication, empathy, and mutual respect. We need to encourage men to be emotionally intelligent and to take responsibility for their actions. We need to create a culture where both men and women feel safe, supported, and valued in their relationships.
The “high value” conversation is getting old because it’s not about building healthy relationships; it’s about bolstering fragile egos and justifying selfish behavior. It’s time to move beyond these tired arguments and start having a more meaningful conversation about what it truly means to be a partner, a lover, and a human being. It’s time to grow up, gentlemen.
